Key Topics & Timestamps
0:00 - Introduction to Sacred Sexuality & Sexual CPR
3:15 - Reclaiming Sexual Sovereignty as Women
8:30 - The Connection Between Pain and Pleasure
15:45 - Hormones as Spiritual Intelligence
22:10 - Breathing Techniques for Orgasmic Energy
28:50 - The Heart-Womb Connection & Infinity Loop
35:20 - Releasing Old Sexual Energies & Trauma
42:15 - The Sacred Vulva in Ancient Traditions
48:30 - Reconnecting with Feminine Anatomy Post-Menopause
As a physician specializing in women's health, I've always been fascinated by the intersection of sexuality, spirituality, and hormonal health. My Sexual CPR course, which I launched back in 2011, emerged from my deep understanding that our feminine energy and the power of orgasm are not just physical experiences—they're pathways to healing, vitality, and profound transformation.
Today, I want to share insights from my recent conversation with Seren Bertrand, author of "Womb Awakening" and "The Magdalene Mysteries," about reclaiming sacred sexuality, especially as we navigate perimenopause and menopause. This isn't just about bedroom intimacy—it's about reconnecting with the divine feminine energy that flows through every aspect of our being.
The Sacred Feminine Awakening
For too long, women have been taught that sexuality is something that happens with someone else, rather than something that originates from within us. This fundamental misunderstanding has disconnected us from our own sexual sovereignty—the knowing that our sexual energy belongs to us first and foremost.
As Seren beautifully explains, "Your sexual energy is yours. It's not something that belongs to anyone else or has to happen with anyone else." This realization is the first step in creating a sacred container around our feminine energy, especially as we move through the transformative years of perimenopause and menopause.
I've seen countless women in my practice who've experienced what I call "sexual shutdown" during menopause. They assume their sensual years are behind them, but nothing could be further from the truth. Menopause isn't a time to shut down—it's a time to open up and reconnect with our deepest feminine wisdom.
Understanding Pain as a Gateway to Pleasure
One of the most profound insights from my conversation with Seren involves the relationship between pain and pleasure. She shared her transformative experience of working with severe menstrual pain through breathwork, discovering that pain itself has a pulse—and when we can stay present with that pulse, it can transform into something entirely different.
This concept revolutionizes how we approach discomfort in our bodies. Rather than numbing or avoiding difficult sensations, we can learn to breathe through them, creating space for transformation. As someone who's taught thousands of women about hormonal health, I've observed that our capacity to experience pleasure is often more limited than our capacity to endure pain.
This is crucial for understanding sexual health after menopause. Many women experience physical changes that initially feel uncomfortable or different. Instead of viewing these changes as barriers, we can learn to work with them as gateways to new forms of pleasure and connection.
The Science Behind Hormones and Sacred Sexuality
What fascinates me most is how modern science is beginning to validate ancient wisdom about feminine energy. The word "hormone" itself comes from the root "whore," which historically meant "womb"—specifically the deep earth womb in cycle with the moon. Our hormones are quite literally our connection to the cyclical, mystical nature of feminine energy.
During perimenopause and menopause, our hormones aren't just randomly fluctuating—they're presenting us with opportunities for deeper healing and transformation. These hormonal shifts can be seen as invitations to clear old patterns and open to new possibilities for pleasure and connection.
The oxytocin connection is particularly powerful here. Every time we experience pleasure, connection, or orgasmic energy, we're flooding our system with this "love hormone," which has profound effects on our mood, stress levels, and overall well-being. This is why reclaiming our sexuality isn't just about physical pleasure—it's about hormonal health and emotional resilience.
Practical Techniques for Awakening Sacred Sexuality
The Daily Breath Practice
One of the most accessible practices Seren shared involves simply breathing into your womb space each morning. This doesn't require special equipment or hours of time—just 10 minutes of conscious breathing can begin to move stuck energy and reconnect you with your feminine essence.
Start by placing one hand on your heart and one on your lower belly. Breathe deeply, allowing your body to naturally begin the subtle undulation that happens when we're in a state of arousal or deep relaxation. This isn't about forcing anything—it's about allowing your body's natural wisdom to emerge.
The Infinity Loop Technique
This powerful practice involves circulating energy between your heart and womb in a figure-eight pattern. As you breathe, visualize energy flowing from your heart down to your womb, and back up to your heart. This connects the emotional and physical aspects of sexuality, which is crucial for women's arousal and pleasure.
The Fire Orgasm Breath
In my Sexual CPR program, I teach what I call the "fire orgasm breath"—a technique that can help women achieve orgasmic states through breathing alone. This practice is particularly valuable for women who've experienced trauma or physical changes that make traditional approaches challenging.
Healing Sexual Trauma and Releasing Old Energies
One of the most important aspects of reclaiming sacred sexuality involves healing from past experiences that may have left us disconnected from our bodies. Whether it's sexual trauma, medical procedures, or simply years of cultural conditioning that taught us to disconnect from our feminine power, we all carry some form of energetic imprint that needs clearing.
The womb is incredibly intelligent—she knows how to release what no longer serves us. Through practices like the visualization of dark energy being released back to the earth, we can clear old sexual energies and create space for new, healthy connections with our bodies.
This is particularly important given what we now know about the exchange of genetic material during sexual encounters. We literally carry traces of our sexual partners' DNA, which makes the practice of energetic clearing even more relevant from a scientific perspective.
The Sacred Vulva: Reclaiming Our Holy Anatomy
Perhaps one of the most profound shifts we need to make is in how we view our intimate anatomy. The vulva has been revered throughout history as sacred, mystical, and powerful. Ancient cultures understood what we're only beginning to remember—that a woman's body is a sacred ceremonial site.
I recently had a patient who was completely disconnected from her vulva—she wouldn't even allow a pelvic exam. This level of disconnection breaks my heart because it represents a profound loss of connection to our feminine power. The vulva is our "outer gate"—the part of our sacred anatomy we can touch, honor, and commune with.
Throughout history, from the Sheela-na-gigs carved above church doors in Ireland to the sacred caves used for spiritual ceremonies, the vulva has been recognized as the gateway between worlds. We need to reclaim this understanding and approach our bodies with reverence rather than shame or disconnection.
Menopause as Sexual Awakening
What excites me most about this conversation is the potential for menopause to be a time of sexual awakening rather than decline. As we move into what I call our "enchantress" years, we have the opportunity to explore new dimensions of pleasure and connection.
The quantum feminine energy that emerges during menopause is incredibly powerful. We're no longer bound by the cyclical nature of reproduction, which frees us to explore sexuality as pure energy, creativity, and connection. This is when we can truly embody the wise woman who knows her power and isn't afraid to claim it.
The Ripple Effect of Awakened Feminine Energy
I believe that when women reclaim their sacred sexuality, the effects ripple out far beyond our individual lives. As Seren pointed out, the world has experienced very few "awakened womb quantum orgasms" in recent history. But we're on the cusp of a new era where increasing numbers of women are reclaiming their feminine power.
This isn't just about personal pleasure—it's about transformation on a global scale. When women are connected to their creative, sexual, and spiritual energy, they become forces for healing and change in the world. We become the wise women who can see the good in others and help raise them up.
Moving Forward with Sacred Sexuality
As we conclude this exploration of sacred sexuality, I want to emphasize that this journey is deeply personal and there's no "right" way to approach it. Whether you're in your 30s, 50s, or 70s, whether you're partnered or single, whether you've experienced trauma or not—your sexuality is yours to reclaim.
The practices I've shared today are invitations, not prescriptions. Start where you are, with what feels safe and accessible. Sometimes the most profound transformations begin with the smallest steps—a few minutes of conscious breathing, a moment of appreciation for your body, or simply the decision to approach your sexuality with curiosity rather than judgment.
Remember, we're not trying to return to some previous version of ourselves. We're moving forward into a new understanding of what it means to be a sexually empowered woman at any age. This is especially true as we navigate menopause and beyond—we're not losing our sexuality, we're transforming it into something even more powerful.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Is it normal to feel disconnected from sexuality during menopause?
A: Absolutely. Hormonal changes during menopause can affect libido, physical sensation, and emotional connection to sexuality. However, this disconnection isn't permanent—it's an invitation to explore new ways of experiencing pleasure and intimacy.
Q: Can breathing techniques really lead to orgasmic experiences?
A: Yes! Many women can achieve orgasmic states through breathwork alone. This involves awakening the energetic pathways in your body and learning to circulate sexual energy through conscious breathing and visualization.
Q: How do I start healing from sexual trauma while exploring sacred sexuality?
A: Start slowly and always honor your boundaries. Begin with practices that feel safe, like the heart-womb breathing technique. Consider working with a qualified therapist who specializes in trauma, and remember that your body's wisdom knows how to heal when given the right support.
Q: What if I don't have a partner—can I still explore sacred sexuality?
A: Absolutely! Sacred sexuality begins with your relationship to yourself and your own body. Many of the most powerful practices are solo experiences that help you reclaim your sexual sovereignty and energy.
